之前我們曾嘗試從BB 的角度出發，看看他們來到這個世界每日面對的新挑戰，但對新手父母而言，日以繼夜、夜以繼日地照顧小朋友，又何嘗不是天天面對不同難關？身心俱疲之餘，部份父母更會為了小朋友放棄自己的嗜好、減少出席朋友聚會等等，你以為會換來美好的親子關係，有助小朋友成長，但事實又是否這樣？
美國Mary Washington曾經向181位五歲以下小童的媽媽進行問卷調查，他們發現越是相信「孩子為先」這一套的媽媽，不見得越開心，反而經常感到壓力、情緒低落、無助，但為了達到自己心目中「好媽媽」的標準，這些媽媽縱然面對情緒困擾，仍甘願犧牲自己的心理健康去成就小朋友的成長發展。
但不理會自己的身心虛耗，最後可能只會得不償失。
「唔係掛，累嘅咪瞓覺囉，都係仔女緊要！」
我們要認清「虛耗」並不是疲倦，而是持久感到筋疲力竭的身心狀態，而且不是透過睡眠便能紓解的。長遠更會降低父母的自我效能感！
看短片了解更多！
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心累的父母可以怎樣做？
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